What IS a "relationship"?
If you're ready for something more than just I'll give you what you want so I can get what I want, keep reading.
Longing for Connection?
Every relationship has a pulse—a living rhythm that changes, adapts, and yes, sometimes loses its beat.
Relationships are messy, and complicated, and sometimes they feel harder than they "should." Tightly Coupled isn't about cookie cutter techniques or better tools. It's about learning to work with and for your relationship instead of trying to fix each other.
I'm Joshua Beckett, LMFT
I don't see your relationship as a battleground for individual needs. I see it as an ecosystem that depends on both of you to survive. You have individual needs, of course! But you have to be willing to ask: what does our relationship need right now? Understanding what this living thing between you is asking for and creating the conditions where it can flourish is what Tightly Coupled teaches.
Through the Tightly Coupled courses and guides you'll move from feeling alone in your partnership to finally having someone truly meet you there, from fighting to be heard to creating understanding together, from compromising yourself away to building something that actually holds both of you—where the connection, the partnership, the being-truly-seen that you've been missing finally becomes possible.
Start where you are
If you’re here, something’s asking for attention.
These programs meet you right there—with guidance for the moments that ache, and pathways for the kind of connection that can finally hold both of you.
Online courses
Self-paced work that includes multiple lessons, downloadable resources, and practice exercises.
One on one
Dive deep into your relationship with personalized guidance. Consultation is free.
Free guides
Easy, practical, and thought provoking guides you can use for immediate results.
Our confidence in our partnership during our work with you was so key for us. We still remind each other to give space, be supportive partners, and care for the relationship itself. So grateful.
Rachel M
I often think about this work and how grateful we are for all of your help. Your guidance made such a difference.
Alex M.
Get started with one of my courses
Tightly Coupled - The Signature Course
Seven modules, thirty lessons, exercises and downloadable worksheets. The complete introduction to reshaping your relationship.
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Untangling Defensiveness: When Good Intentions Aren't Enough
One day, three lesson mini-course on getting beyond the most common pattern of conflict I see in every relationship: defensiveness.
 What Are We Building Together?
A free worksheet to help you define your relationship's values. Before you start using random communication tools, name what you're creating together in this relationship. The tools you use have to be in support of something specific. When you know what you're fighting FOR, every conversation changes.
Relationship Ecosystem Assessment
A free assessment to identify which of four relationship ecosystems you're in. It's fun and thought provoking.
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Making Hard Decisions
A free worksheet for making courageous decisions when your relationship is at a crossroads. This guide helps you come to difficult decisions by listening to what you already know.
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