Define your shared purpose

This free worksheet helps you move from "my needs vs. your needs" to "what does our relationship need?"— in about 30 minutes.

Most couples try to fix their relationship with communication strategies without first understanding what the tools are FOR.

Maybe you find yourself here:

You've tried communication exercises and relationship advice, but nothing seems to stick. You feel like you're just managing problems.

Or maybe you're here:

You love each other and rarely fight, but something feels missing. You're great roommates, but you can't shake the feeling that you're just going through the motions rather than creating something meaningful together.

Or perhaps you're here:

You've been together for years and things are stable, but when you imagine your future together, it's mostly just "more of the same." You realize you've never actually talked about what you're building beyond a functional household.

Bridgette S

“I’m happy to say we are thriving.”

When you know what you're building together:

Communication becomes purposeful rather than just damage control.

Conflicts transform into opportunities to serve what you're building together.

You stop managing problems and start stewarding something meaningful.

Every conversation connects to your shared vision.

This changes every conversation you have.

Let me help. I'm Joshua Beckett, LMFT, a couples and trauma therapist.

I see relationships as ecosystems that both partners tend, not as containers for competing individual needs. This shift alone will change how you approach conflict.

When I work with couples, I give them this worksheet to help them define what kind of world they want to build together, what their values are, and to help them remember what they're fighting FOR, not fighting about.

Introducing

What Are We Building Together

A worksheet to guide you and your partner thoughtfully toward a deeper understanding of what your relationship's values are, what kind of world you're creating together, and the first step in answering the question "What does our relationship need right now?"

Get the What Are We Building Together worksheet

What You'll Discover:

Your relationship's "Super Needs" - the core values that guide your partnership
What kind of world you're creating together beyond just "getting along"
How to move from individual needs to collaborative world-building
Your relationship's deeper purpose and what it's actually for
A shared vision that makes every conversation and conflict meaningful

Ready to discover your relationship's core values?

Stop using random relationship tools. You can't use that wrench 'til y'know what you're building.